My girl. My girl is beautiful and sensitive and dramatic. She is independent and sweet. Today she sobbed to me that "no one likes me." Whenever she is in trouble, she pulls out this phrase, because did I mention we're a bit dramatic? So at first, I just reassured her that we all like her. Then I realize that she was upset about friends at school. Her teacher had told me a few days ago that there was a bit of girl drama this week. Drama. In Kindergarten. Her teacher didn't fill me in on details, just that 4 girls were trying to play together and weren't meshing too well. I made sure that Ashlyn wasn't being mean, but now I'm thinking that Ashlyn is perhaps the one getting left out. Ack. These are such hard lessons. How to explain that not everybody will like her? How to explain that sometimes people are mean? How to put her in a bubble and protect her?
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It happens to boys, too, and even in preschool, though I think the drama-level is less. Mikey will come home from school saying, "Finn isn't my best friend anymore because he won't play with me." Crazy! Let me know if you figure it all out.
It's happening at the girls' kindergarten. "Azra doesn't play with me anymore. She doesn't like me." Then, a couple weeks later, they are friends again. But, it does cause drama. I'm not always sure how to deal with it either. Like Holly, let me know if you figure it out.
I'm probably just feeling a bit dramatic and sensitive about it myself. I was just thinking about all of the drama that kids can go through. I remember being left out and the one leaving other kids out just as often, though. I also need to teach her to always be kind to other kids.
Who wouldn't like that pretty face.
"Shower those you love with love..." Bob/Dad/Pawpaw
Annie had a hard kindergarten year. I saw firsthand girls in a group telling her if she would "go away" and "leave them alone" they would play with her next time. It about breaks your heart. She came home crying more than a couple of days a week. It seems it was just that group of girls. We moved over here to Farmington and haven't had as much trouble. This year it is more trouble with the boys (one in particular-that we go to church with of all things). I do not know what to tell her either. And, she got the citizenship award in kindergarten, so apparently she wasn't being mean back. Like you said, that was the thing I was worried about. If you are a mom concerned about your child being the mean one, she probably isn't. The year is almost over. Hopefully, she will be around different girls next year. I know that doesn't help much. It's sad that girls can be so mean to each other. It's hard to teach them to "not care" about what people say when it hurts. I don't know if there is a perfect answer. It's part of being a mom, raising kids while on our knees, hurting with them, and praying that they can one day love their enemies. love you!
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